The human pschye is an amazing place but it has a tendency to gravitate toward the negative. How many of us become the criticisims of the people around us. Its so easy to take the ideas that others impose upon us for their own very human reasons and keep them as precious core beliefs. Painful memories are more easily called upon than happy ones. Rather than let things go and release our pain, we tend to hold on to it.....stuffing it down inside ourselves to keep it where we want it. And why would we want it? Why would we work so hard to keep it? Because we have in our minds the idea that the person who caused the pain can be changed - that their attitude towards us can be changed - that one day they will say sorry and they will be the person we hope they will be.
We don't have to give up on them to release that pain. We just have to accept them as they are.....that that's just where they're at and their reasons for being they way they are...are very very human - just as we are who are for the same reasons.
And the truth is.....whether or not they change is irrelevant. If they did turn around and apologise and change and become the person our idealistic label for them tells us they should be.....the chances are we would find some other reason to hold onto that pain. Because we have convinced ourselves we need it. It has become such an integral part of us for so long that we are addicted to it - like cocaine. And just like cocaine - it makes us sick - in body and mind. We must kick it or we can never evolve.
So it is a habit and it is not our natural state of being. When we start to dwell on the negative, when we call up the memories that hurt, when we indulge in the criticisms of others that we know not to be true.....we gotta try to remember to reach for the positive. A happy memory or a mantra to use as a weapon. Eventually it will become instinctive. When that happens we will start to really win.
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
How Extraordinary
How extraordinary are the moments of quiet. I often come short of the philosophy, 'Speak little, listen much' but today I didn't - and it was beautiful. There are moments, if you lie quietly in the early morning, when nobody is about and just ponder for a while. Sometimes, if I remember to listen, I can hear the universe and it amazes me.
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Sometimes....
Sometimes I come across something that really does get under my skin. These are days when the human race disgusts me and I think about reclassifying myself and denying that I was ever connected. You read about things happening overseas in other countries that are truly wrong. Kids being sold to slavers and the sex-trade by their own parents and much much worse. It deeply saddens me and there's not much to do but take comfort that these things are not happening in my own country.
But now and then.....my illusions are shattered and I discover that evils just as great are being done to the most innocent and vulnerable members of our society - our children. In our own backyard (in our town) on this very day they are debating whether or not to charge a man with murder or manslaughter because he used lethal force on his two-year old nephew. Thats right folks....two. This child was two when this 'creature' roundhouse kicked him in the stomach and split his pancreas. The man that killed that child is a murderer - plain and simple - there is no 'debate' on the issue. What is worse is that this is not an isolated incident and nor is it the worst of what happens either and its happening in NZ on a regular basis. It is happening on a grand scale to children all over the world, from the individual crime against a child to the great political shams created so that some fatcat can roll around in more money or more land or more power. So much terrible suffering by so many so young.
There is a sickness in the human race that must go. It is the lack of respect for life, the lack of respect for anothers right to know the basic necessities of life - food, water, shelter and love. It is the dreadful pretense that we call ourselves human when so many of us have barely a humane bone in our bodies.
But now and then.....my illusions are shattered and I discover that evils just as great are being done to the most innocent and vulnerable members of our society - our children. In our own backyard (in our town) on this very day they are debating whether or not to charge a man with murder or manslaughter because he used lethal force on his two-year old nephew. Thats right folks....two. This child was two when this 'creature' roundhouse kicked him in the stomach and split his pancreas. The man that killed that child is a murderer - plain and simple - there is no 'debate' on the issue. What is worse is that this is not an isolated incident and nor is it the worst of what happens either and its happening in NZ on a regular basis. It is happening on a grand scale to children all over the world, from the individual crime against a child to the great political shams created so that some fatcat can roll around in more money or more land or more power. So much terrible suffering by so many so young.
There is a sickness in the human race that must go. It is the lack of respect for life, the lack of respect for anothers right to know the basic necessities of life - food, water, shelter and love. It is the dreadful pretense that we call ourselves human when so many of us have barely a humane bone in our bodies.
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